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Leadership Talks with Avraham (Avi) N. Kluger

Why Won’t You Listen?

Tuesday
18
March
  • Starts:13:00, 18 March 2025
  • Ends:13:45, 18 March 2025
  • Location:BI - campus Oslo, room: A2-Red 13 & Zoom
  • Contact:Lina Daouk-Öyry (lina.daouk-oyry@bi.no)

Abstract

When people listen well, they do better in work, marriage, parenting, negotiation, medicine, psychiatric treatment, and consulting. To explain these outcomes, Episodic Listening Theory (Kluger & Itzchakov, 2022) suggests that listening produces a virtuous dyadic cycle in which a listener increases the authenticity of the speaker, which in turn improves listening, culminating in rare moments of togetherness (good relationships). In these moments of togetherness, people tolerate paradoxes and inconsistencies and are creative. When the togetherness episode ends, people leave it with greater clarity, novel plans, heightened well-being, and a stronger attachment to the other person. These theoretical claims are consistent empirical data. For example, in the domain of work, meta-analyses indicate that the strongest correlates of listening are variables reflecting relationship quality (e.g., trust), followed by positive emotions, flexible cognitions, and superior performance, where some of these effects are based on experimental evidence (Kluger et al., 2024). In the domain of attitudes, listening causes attitudes to become more complex and less extreme (Itzchakov et al., 2017), and our new research on the effects of listening training indicates that it also increases a paradoxical mindset. Given this theory-consistent evidence, a question arises regarding why people often do not listen well. I will describe key obstacles to listening and the fledgling research supporting them, including cognitive demand, avoidance-attachment style, second-hand trauma, and resistance to change.

What is Leadership Talks?

Leadership Talks is a series of seminars about topics related to leadership, change and sustainability, project management and organizational psychology, hosted by the Department of Leadership and Organizational Behavior at BI Norwegian Business School.

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